Monthly Archives: April 2012

The pink elephant in the room….FAT

A much fatter world is upon us. In a study by the Australian Government in 2006 it was shown that over 60% of adults were over weight or obese. A number I’m sure has only risen since then. There are no words for such a result. We are meant to be the active country, the one who loves a healthy lifestyle, our sport, the beaches and all that goes along with that.

But apparently not so much.

It’s not that I’m hating on ‘fat’ people, nor am I suggesting that everybody doesn’t have the right to be comfortable in their skin just the way they are. But rather I’m expressing my concern for the weight problems the world over.

The only reason I feel even somewhat qualified to make comment on this subject is because at one point I was ‘fat’. Having lost a substantial amount of weight, with still a considerable amount to go, I understand how easy it is to let go, enjoy food a little too much, and not want to get off the couch. I also understand how difficult it is to lose weight, how to make those first changes, how to manage a hectic schedule and how to try and maintain a healthy lifestyle even though you want that piece of cake!!

What worries me, is more and more people feel quite ok with living an unhealthy lifestyle and do not see the harm in it.   Have people not realised that in this day and age obesity has overtaken smoking as the leading cause of preventable deaths?

Yet – day in day out – we hear the complaints about smoking and how people are actively killing themselves (now don’t get me wrong I have lost too many people to cancer to ever consider smoking to be a personal choice – as far as I’m concerned outlaw them, keep raising the prices) but what I am saying, is that when we complain about someone being fat and inactive, we are seen as the horrible people, who should be tiptoeing around the ‘pink elephant’ in the room, that is FAT.

Why can’t we call it like we see it? At some point there is no excuse for being too fat. I’ve heard them all, and used most of them, things like : It’s just too hard, Nothing works, I don’t have the time, I’m big boned, I’m doing everything right but not getting results, I need more food than that. At the end of the day we are only lying to ourself. Unless there is an actual injury preventing you from doing physical activity, or some extraordinary reason that you need to consume so much of the wrong foods – then I cannot think of any excuse good enough to put your health at such risk.

I understand that it is hard – but coming from a fat person at heart – there really is no excuse, all you need is a little support. I’m not saying in the form of a mentor or someone you pay lots of money to ‘care’ about your weight-lose or healthy lifestyle journey. But someone who genuinely cares, not because they have to but because they want to, and the funny thing is that will generally come from someone at your local gym – all you have to do is make that first step in the door.

For me I was lucky – I had a family member willing to work out beside me, willing to push me when I didn’t want to push myself. But I also found at my local gym a trainer, who whilst I couldn’t afford to pay for personal training session, was happy to share his knowledge, words of wisdom, helpful hints or words of encouragement that I needed at the time. And whilst he may not think that he played a large part in my weight-lose to date, the times that I spent working out in his classes laid the most solid foundations for my work out ethics, and showed me that I could push myself to new lengths. Not to be afraid of a little hard work and sweat, that a bit of pain wasn’t going to kill me, that in fact it was my friend.

And before people start wanting to linch me and throw pitch forks at me for having such a black and white opinion regarding being over weight, just remember I was overweight. I am currently still TRYING to lose weight. I am currently still clocking up the miles on the treadmill, beating the crap out of a boxing bag and trying to lift my own body weight just to get somewhere. I’m currently trying to eat as clean healthily as possible, to not crash diet and to not binge eat. And to add to all of that – I found out recently that I actually do have a medical condition that hinders weight lose. But yet, If I am to let that be an excuse and a reason to not continue – then I have wasted the 30kilograms that I have lost, and all the hard work put in by others around me to help me get to this point.

I’m not trying to say that we need to force those around us to put down the chips and get up and do something – I completely understand that it is something you have to do and be committed to doing when you are ready, in your own time. If you are forced to do it – it won’t last. Sadly it is all about head space, and being in the right frame of mind to conquer weight-lose and diet issues. But those of us who are to embarrassed to walk into a gym, or keep saying ‘tomorrow’ are never going to get anywhere.

My worst fear was being the biggest, unfit-test in the gym, but isn’t that exactly the point of a gym? To start somewhere? Who cares if there are stronger fitter people there. Trust me they are more than happy to lend you a hand when need be, in fact, they started somewhere to. I’m also and all or nothing type person – so for me If I’m not eating ridiculously healthy, them I’m eating terribly. But it doesn’t have to be like that for other people. Just making a conscious effort to eat ‘better’ than you normally do is a great place to start.

In the end, it’s not about being the fittest person, the skinniest person or the healthiest person in the world. Simply put, it is about being the best version of you that you can be, about setting a good example for those around you and living a long and healthy life. We can’t do all of these things morbidly obese. We need to get our bums up off the couch and do something.

The equation if simple: Good food + Exercise = a healthy body (and a killer rig to boot!!)

So get up, be active, put down the chocolate and soft drink and believe you can do it – because everyone is capable of living a healthy lifestyle NO EXCUSES!!!

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Friday Favourites!!

Here we go again – another Friday, another list of favourites

1. The smell of fresh rain.

2. Talking to a friend on the phone for hours.

3. Pretty much any One Direction song. (Lame I know 🙂 )

4.  The sound of rain on a tin roof

5. The sound of thunder rolling in before a big storm (think theres a theme emerging here)

6. Getting caught in a sun shower – the water and warmth is so amazing!!

7. Splashing in puddles like a kid

8. Climbing a tree

9. Patterns and prints on nails

10. An awesome find at an op shop or second hand thrift store (nothing beats a preloved bargain)


Hope some of you have tried these and if not – get going! They will brighten your day!! 🙂

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Carly Rae Jepsen – Call Me Maybe

Talk about being caught off guard.

I HATED this song when I first heard it – but yet here I am, weeks on, loving it with every ounce of my being.

This song actually brightens my day.

No matter how commercial, how POP, how overplayed, or how repetitive this song may have seemed in the beginning  – I CANNOT get enough of it.

The simplicity that Carly Rae Jepsen gives to the topic of falling in love, the way she takes away the depression, heart ache and anguish, and reminds us what it was like to be a young girl with a crush is genius.

It’s simply wonderful.

Whilst I love a good love ballad, tearing at the heart strings, emotive, depressing but brilliant song as much as the next girl, sometimes it’s nice to be reminded that we are all kids at heart, and that life is beautiful.

This songs takes me back to the days of Aaron Carters ‘I’ve Got A Crush’, Hanson ‘MMMBOP” and songs of the like.

It really is a blast from the past in the present.

If you haven’t already – have a listen – I GUARANTEE YOU WILL SMILE 🙂

Let me know what songs make you smile, so I can smile at them, and then post them here for the few that read my posts 🙂

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April 25, 2012 · 10:59 pm

Friday favourites!

Let’s see what wonderful things I can come up with today!!

1. Cocooning yourself inside a blanket on a cold day.

2. Taking your shoes off in the car after a long day – and massaging them on the pedals (it is simple the greatest feeling ever).

3. Setting yourself a challenge and surprising yourself by succeeding.

4. Sleeping all day.

5. Knowing the most trivial fact about the most trivial things.

6. Taking time out of your day to listen to someone and give them a worthy piece of advice that you know is going to help them.

7. Being brave enough to ask a question in a classroom or board room – and getting the answer you’ve been waiting for.

8. Knowing that you are right – but not sinking to someone else’s level to argue about it.

9. Really knowing who you are, and accepting that.

10. Not having to set and alarm clock for the next morning.


Don’t know if these ones were as great as the last friday favourites but have a great day everyone!!

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“Our greatest glory is n…

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do” Confucius

For me this is the most inspiring quote. And one that I personally try to live my life by…

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April 19, 2012 · 12:16 am

But what do you mean you don’t like me.

One of the hardest lessons in life to learn is that not everybody will like you. 

This is a life lesson that couldn’t have come any quicker for me – its a lesson I’ve also struggled with at times. I like to think that I am a friendly, kind, caring person, who has a big heart, however sometimes there are parts of my personality that just don’t sit well with others.

Sometimes I rub people up the wrong way, offend people without meaning to, and sometimes people just don’t warm to me. But learning and accepting this – as hard as it is – has changed the way I think about other people and life. It has meant that I don’t spend every spare minute of my time (not that I ever get a spare minute) over thinking and analysing every aspect of other peoples actions to gage why they perhaps don’t like me.

Why is it that we care so much?

Each of us can not possibly like every person we meet – so why do we find it so inconceivable that we may not be liked by someone else? We place far to much emphasis on what other people think about us, and give far to much power to those around us.

Why do we care about people looking at us when we walk into the room? why do we always assume the whispering that we can hear is about us? And even if it is – why do we care? The people that we know and love, know and love us back. Those, are who we should concern ourselves with. It is those peoples opinions that matter.

While I am not suggesting that we stop trying, stop caring if we are nice to each other, and stop worrying about offending people – I am merely suggesting that there are those who will never be pleased by anything that we do – and it is those people, that we need to move on from. 

At the end of the day, one person not liking you should not bare any impact on your life – (unless of course that person is your mother in law.. that could be problematic 🙂

This also goes for others judging us. Why should we care if others chose to judge us harshly, if others chose to believe their own truths. As long as you live loyal to what you believe in, then there should be no concern with what others think about us. 

But the same can be said for each and every one of us. We need to remember whilst judging others, are we perfect? Are there things about ourselves that we would change? We need to be kinder, be realistic, and understand we are all different

We need to have faith in ourselves, be kind, gracious of others, but also be accepting that not everyone feels the same way we do. 

If we can care less about others thoughts and more about embracing our own – then the world would be a happier place…


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Fridays favourites!

The beginning of the list. Fridays Favourites if you will. I’ll try and post 10 things each Friday that I love. If you have never experienced some of them – get on board and try them asap!! You won’t regret it!!

1. Walking barefoot in the grass/sand

2. Listening to someone else win something on the radio (I love to hear them cry with joy!!)

3. Driving along on an otherwise cold day and the sun shining in your window onto your face and it being so hot that you feel like you’re going to get sunburnt

4. The feeling of achievement when you’ve finished a really tough gym session

5. Watching old TV shows – like the LoveBoat 🙂

6. Fields full of yellow canola

7. Driving alone and singing at the top of your lungs – and then someone catching you rocking out

8. Ciders on a Sunday in the sun

9. Finishing work early

10. Having something to save for like a holiday, or clothing – and then getting it

What are your Friday Favourites? help me find more things to add to my friday favourites!!!

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“Happiness does not dep…

“Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are, it solely relies on what you think.” – Buddha

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April 12, 2012 · 3:32 am

Failure? What does it really mean…

We all fail – it’s an inevitable part of life, but what does it mean?


Why are we so afraid of, ‘When our best just isn’t good enough’?

One little statement can bring so much fear, anxiousness, and depression to someone, but why. Mention the word fail and people freeze up, it is the unimaginable thing – to actually fail at something.

In sports, in our careers, in our marriages, in our relationships, in our education, failure is just not an option, but why?

Whilst we have all been in the position of supporting the losing sporting team and cursing them for their ‘poor’ effort, perhaps we need to sit back and say that their best WAS good enough? I mean we grow up hearing our parents preach to us, that all they can expect from us is to try our hardest – as long as we did our best thats all they could ask for (or at least thats what my parents said to me).

I understand the disappointment in training for something for so long, in having life goals, and watching these be destroyed because you failed. But I also think that after the initial shock of failure subsides, we need to embrace the fact that at least we had the opportunity – at least we had the chance to try.

I must explain why I feel like discussing failure –  I see a possible failure in my not to distant future – a big failure for me. I can see it coming, peddling along slowly growing in momentum, and at this point theres nothing that I can do to stop it. It really is through no fault of mine – I have tried my hardest, done everything that is humanly possible – and at the end of the day that is all I can do. However I am also willing to embrace the consequences that come with failing, the consequences that come with being responsible for something succeeding and it not.  I’m not happy about failing, nor can I imagine anyone every actually being happy about failing. But I am however going to embrace it. Again the biggest cliche is to learn from your mistakes – but I think we need to learn from our failures as well.

I consider these two separate thoughts, as mistakes and failures are two different things. I believe a mistake is when you do the wrong thing, don’t try, don’t give it your all, don’t commit. (I will blog on my philosophy on mistakes another time)           Whereas a failure, is when you do try, you do commit, you want to succeed and have done everything humanly possible to do so – but for one reason or another it just doesn’t happen.

I also think that we need to embrace the idea that generally there will always be someone better than us. This does not mean that I accept mediocracy and will settle for a half assed effort, it just means that I will always strive to be better than I currently am, to try and reach that person that is ahead of me. I think we need to think like this – or else we will drive ourselves crazy whenever we actually do meet someone who is better than us at something. If we believe that someone is better than us at a given task/tool/talent, then we won’t go crazy when we meet that person – but rather respect them for their efforts and try to grow and learn from them. It is not a failure not to be the best, it is a failure to not even be in the race.

I know that an athlete may read this and criticise my thoughts, as they think that failing is the worst thing for them.  Losing a grand final, or coming second in the final of the 100 meter sprint seems like the end of the world. However I think that by believing that you are only worth the place you get in a sporting competition is limiting , you are devaluing yourself. You’re  not just the sport you play – you have more to offer the world. And at the end of the day we are all adults – we are not going to criticise you for trying and failing – but for not trying in the first place.

This goes for anything in life, a career, a relationship, education: to have failed at something, means that you actually tried. As long as you have tried your hardest. And at the end of the day, who really cares if you fail. As long as you gave it your all, hold your head up high, laugh it off and try again. We won’t get anywhere if we are scared of failing. Nor will we get anywhere, if when we do fail, we stay down, to scared to get back up.

Don’t be scared to make the leap  because the fall may be to great. Make the leap, and if you fall, dust yourself off and leap again!!!


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We’ve all seen a pretty sunset right??

We all love a good sunset. But how many of us actually get to see magical sunsets on a regular basis?

Thankfully I was lucky enough to be ‘stuck’ on an island for a few weeks with nothing much else to do but admire the sunrise and sunsets.

For me – it’s more than just the visual appeal. It’s the feeling, the thoughts that come with such a beautiful sight.

I imagine a couple somewhere (young or old) looking up at the same sky. I think of all the other people across the country, the world, sharing that moment with me. A free moment, no matter who you are.

There’s never two the same, and I think thats the attraction – you’re always going to be seeing something new and fresh.

Sunrises and sunsets can mean so many things to so many different people – there is no right or wrong way to feel about a sunset – we all experience them in our own ways.

Next time your driving at sunset, pull over for a few minutes and appreciate the natural beauty in front of you – you’ll feel better for it.

(these photos are not stolen – they were either taken by me or friends of mine)

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